Back Again!

Hello !!

Long time I blogged.

Multiple sickness' to me and mine kept me away from blogging. Also, there is this thing that my emotions were not very upbeat in this past week. So why burden the blogosphere with negativity?

I am also suffering from some weird writer's block. I must have written 3-4 articles in last few days and then deleted them without posting because I thought they were not good enough.

But if my 21 day Blog Experiment has taught me anything, it's that 'Showing up is half the battle' won! 

Even when you feel inadequate or don't feel like it, when you show up, you have achieved 50% of the task. What follows is, you somehow get this momentum which propels you to achieve the required quality as well to complete the task.

Anyhow, I would end this post with some words of wisdom from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better, whether by
a healthy child, a garden patch
or a redeemed social condition;

To know even one life has breathed
easier because you have lived; 

This for me means a life well lived.

When do we become ready for parenthood?

Maybe my question is wrong..  Should I say, When do we really become adults?

Technically, I know we 'become' adults when we turn 18 and most certainly, we can also birth kids by then..

But this is not about that..!!

This is about the mental aspect of being an adult and a parent. I say this because even in my thirties (early thirties, I am not that old, ok!! 😉) I look up to my parents' help and guidance in things both small and big. If there is something going amiss, they are the first ones I turn to for comfort and I really need them to guide me then on.

And that's what I am trying to point out here.. These days, suddenly, I have started thinking that I have to grow up. Like really grow up. Become an adult and take my own responsibility, as a parent does for a kid. In all aspects of my life.

Like when I was a kid, I would sleep by 10 pm, wake up at 6.45 am. No questions asked. That was the discipline and routine my parents had trusted upon me.  Following it was simple.

Now when I am an adult, I sleep whenever I want, wake up whenever I want. Being a liberated housewife has it's cons. There is no one that I am answerable to and nowhere fixed that I have to report to in the morning. So I am not really 'adulting' myself properly. I am still hung up somewhere in the middle of childhood and adulthood.

I want to become someone I feel answerable to. You know, intrinsically have a radar, to do the right thing from the wrong. Act  and think the right way, always.

And when I become that person, who is acting responsibly in any given situation. Looking out for myself the way my parents would, choosing wisely instead of indulging in self sabotage - That's when I feel I deserve to be called 'an adult'!

I think one becomes ready for parenthood when one successfully starts parenting themselves into doing things they should, even when they don't feel like.

P.S: This blog is an uncensored version of the current state of mind of the author's. The author prides herself to be sincere in this age of social media where only 'perfect' moments, instagram stories are shared by many. This is an attempt to make this blog as candid as the author is ✌😇

So relatable....

Today the world has come to a point where everyone is so busy that they don't really have time for daily socialising. That aside, the long hours at work have also made self reflection a very rare thing. When the weekend comes, there are those household chores to do which were ignored the whole week. The laundry, the cleaning of house, the purchase of groceries etc.

So in all this humdrum, every once in a while there comes a time when you meet someone or talk to someone who really converses with you (without peeping into their phone sneakily). Or you happen to read a blog/book which you  totally relate to. Please. Please notice your sense of fulfilment then.

There is a different thrill to be connected to someone with similar thought patterns or with someone who has something really interesting to share. That sensation really matters cause in the end, we are social beings. 

Yes, even for the introverts who derive vigour by being alone. In fact more in the case of introverts because it is so rare that they connect to people in the first place. So when they do, it really feels good.

Of late, I have been having these wonderful encounters. Either the conversations I have with people are really scintillating or I come across blog articles or YouTube videos which resonate deep within.

And what a genuine thrill that is! 

To know, there are people out there facing similar issues and getting to know their ideas of how to deal with same. Or knowing that somewhere out there, in the far off, is someone who shares the exact same opinion as we do. Or, is going through the same feelings of apprehension or excitement.

Makes you feel a very tiny but inclusive speck in this big cosmos!

Sunday Special

Today's blog is very very special (not only because it is Sunday)!!

Because I realized it's my 50th blog and my blog page has upwards of 1000 views in total till date. 🙌

Thank you my dearies! I take this as majorly your love for me (and minorly for my blogs, some which made sense, some which didn't maybe).

My first ever attempt at writing down my endless thoughts. My first attempt at fiction and poetry too!

This kind of fulfils one of my long cherished dream of being a writer! You know those dreams, which you have while very young and then which fizzle out. Just because you are not really sure, if you are good enough or if it will help you make a living. 

I know that you, my dear family and friends, are the only ones privy to this blog link. So technically, all of you are kind of pushed into being polite and reading my stuff. Who knows if there will ever be any readers who don't know me personally and even then follow my blog! (Also, there is no fixed benchmark set to be able to call oneself an official 'writer')

But that's not the point.

The main thing here is:

•   One kind nudge from a dear friend to not give up on my blog and be consistent.
•   One honest review of how I can improve my grammar and sentence formation.
•   One encouraging but critical view on my blog. 
•   One dearie, who agrees to disagree with my view points and take the efforts to say so on my face.

In today's day, I really value the above because everyone is trying to just be socially or politically correct. It takes real good relations and intentions, to leave diplomacy aside and give real helpful but 'not so pleasing' feedback.  

All these pointers have helped write the 50 blogs and earn the 1000 views. 💕💟

This is proof that sometimes, dreams do become reality. That if we are kind and encouraging to our fellow beings, there may be a small but positive outcome. That one act of generosity and encouragement from us, may lead to a major movement later!

Today you sure make me a Gladie!

In fact, I would also like to share some minor details,

•   I named my blog Gladie Life because I really feel very very grateful for having all you awesome people into my life!
•  When you actually Google the meaning of the name 'Gladie', you end up with various other forms of the word like Gladys, Gladis etc. So it seems like I have picked up a pen name which is very rare these days.
•   If we take into consideration the pronunciation of word 'Glady' (which is also how I pronounce Gladie) and search for a meaning of the word: It means royalty, small sword or lame. (Yeah, very random 😊)
•  Since knowing the above meaning I just seem to think of myself as a 'Princess' who uses this blog, as a small sword, to write about either some deep topics or some lame ones. (Who said royalty can't be deep or lame???! 😎)

Hmmm.  That's all I have for now,

Thank you for all your time and efforts into this blog! 👍

P.S: You make me real proud with your patience to endure all my reflections of and in 'life'....! 👏👏✌

My Power!

I want...

A little sunshine and not the constant rain,

A little pleasant breeze and not the harsh wind,

A few kind words and not the barrage of lines which make no sense,

A warm cup of coffee and not the ice cold water in the tap,

A little source of income and not the constant expenses,

But I am really grateful that...

 The constant rain is helping solve water issues,

The wind helps generate electricity for business' and all,

We have the vocabulary which can help us express our emotions well,

We have water running in our taps, cold or hot does not matter,

We have the capacity to pay for our day to day expenses,

So I deduce,

I have way more things to be grateful for and that,

I am not focusing on the right things,

It's always my choice,

A choice which will differentiate,

How my life is!

I have the power to create my life,

Good, Bad, ugly is just a perception,

The influence to sway it either ways, lies with me!